Yes, ALL Men

      Did the title trigger you? If so, buckle up buttercup, because it's not going to get better for you here.  If you didn't get triggered...enjoy the ride.  

LET'S GOOOOOOO

    Before you start screaming "NOT all men" or "I don't know any men that harm women"... shut up and stop the utter lying and gaslighting.  regarding assaults on women and those around you.  If you can HONESTLY say that no man that you know has caused any harm to a woman...it's YOU.  If you are simply saying this...you've watched your friends harm women.  You've sat back and listened to the tales of your friends harming women.   Or....just maybe...you REFUSE to comprehend what harm consists of.

     Have you ever PRESSURED a woman into intercourse? Have you ever taken and/or shared an intimate picture of a woman without her consent? Have you ever used alcohol or illicit substances in order to become "intimate" with a woman? Have you ever REFUSED to take no for an answer from a woman? Have you ever taken a drastic action to "keep a woman" that has expressed that she wants all ties with you to be severed?  Have you ever followed a woman around in public trying to force her to notice you? Have you deiced you can touch on a woman because you are familiar with her, although she is actively objecting?

     Why did I ask you those questions? A few reasons let's go over the top ones.  First, men are taught from a very early age that [when it comes to women], "if at first, you don't succeed, try again" as well as, "she doesn't know what she is missing."  As they come into their manhood, the mantra morphs into "you are the prize." Men are encouraged to ignore our "no's" as women.  There are a plethora of men that make a name for themselves PROUDLY "giving advice" to men about how to trick a woman into their bed.  They thrive on disclosing their techniques of removing a woman's consent in the manner and instilling fear in her should she not comply.  

     Secondly, there are far too many "pick me" women that dig deep into their internalized misogyny to cosign the deplorable antics and behaviors of said men.  These women do not realize (or care) that they are putting US ALL in incredible danger.  They make men feel as if dominating women and taking what they desire for us is their universal right.  Read that AGAIN. An additional side effect of this mentality is that when "pick me" women are the victims of men, they fervently blame themselves.

     Lastly, for the sake of this current commentary, society (spearheaded by the judicial system) place the responsibility for men's actions on men.  It's NEVER his fault it's always: 

• her past
• her clothing
• how she was dancing
• what she drank
• what she does for a living
• because she is a distraction
• she shouldn't have been there at that time or at all
• SHE should know better

     Ask yourself why is it that [many] men deem themselves superior to women, why are WE placed in the position to ensure that THEY BEHAVE?  Why can't the [self-proclaimed] leaders of households and society govern themselves and perpetuate self-control? Why? If we as [mere] women control ourselves, why can't you? Why are we viewed as the PROPERTY of men? 

     Just as melanated people have NO idea if a cop that approaches them is "one of the good ones", women have NO idea which man they encounter is going to harm them.  It doesn't matter if it is a stranger, a friend, or a [trusted] relative...the threat of harm remains.  Until MEN and society (as a whole) hold men accountable, it is ALL MEN.  Turning a blind eye is NOT what a "good guy" is made of.  Believing that you are ENTITLED to your crush is NOT what makes you a "high-value man." These things make you the PROBLEM.  

     

     Furthermore, BEFORE you proclaim yourself to be "one of the good ones" and that "I have NEVER seen any man harm a woman", think about what you have read thus far.  Coercion is HARM.  Removing CONSENT is HARM.  Intimidation is HARM.  Deafening yourself to the word NO is HARM.   Once again, YES, it is ALL men until it is NO MEN.  Until women can wear what they desire, go where they desire, and be who they desire without being riddled with fear; save your male fragility for therapy.  

    

     And BEFORE you try any of the other not all men talking points, riddle me any of the following:

• Why do you warn your daughters/sisters/female friends and cousins about men?
• Why do you require your girlfriends to change when your friends visit?
• Why do you [often] ask your mates to change before a girls' night out?
• Why do you have one friend or family member that can NEVER be around your romantic partner?

     In closing, let us have a call to action.  Ensure that you are better after reading this and you will go forth and ensure that the men around you do the same.  It is far past time for you to be your brother's keeper and your sister's protector.  

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