What Do You Really Want from a Woman?

     

     This phenomenon of straight men proclaiming that they are tired of paying for dates that end without adult gymnastics, while [simultaneously] proclaiming that a woman that partakes on the first night decreases in value is mind-boggling.  I wish I could say that the contradictions cease there, but I would be lying to you.  Here's the shortlist:

• Women are "required" to provide 50% of the household expenditures while allowing the man to be the SOLE head of the household.
• She is also expected to be [a new version of] submissive
• Women must bring exactly what their counterparts bring to the table, BUT not be financially independent, successful in their careers, or confident.
• Women should NOT rely on men for anything BUT have a void that can be filled by a man so that the man FEELS needed.
• Women should be visually attractive to their mates but covered head to toe so as not to garner the gaze of another.
• Men REQUIRE a safe space from their mate but will be unlikely to provide one for her because that is NOT alpha male behavior.
• Men will also RARELY open up due to fear of what they share being used against them while utilizing what their mate shares as fuel for gaslighting.
• Men find it acceptable to garner their relationship advice from SINGLE men with podcasts but avoid women who take advice from their family and friends.

     Keep in mind that it was not long ago that churches and society were telling women to better themselves to be equally yolked when God provided them with a mate.  We were [heavily] conditioned to patiently wait, keeping ourselves pure and prepared for our [someday] forever love.  As we waited, we educated, healed, and elevated ourselves.  We weren't made aware that far too many men were conditioned to remain stagnant and simply to "wear us down".

   

  Now, instead of men meeting us where we are and matching our strides, we are told to diminish ourselves to make room for a man-child in our lives.  WTH?! We are beaten over the head being told NOT to look to be kept, but we are to KEEP a man and settle for STRUGGLE LOVE because men chose not to step up?!  

     It is as if men simply want the unattainable with NO EFFORT on their part.  Instead of rising to the occasion, they merely believe existing is enough for the woman of their dreams to desire them and only them.  Before you start, I have a bit of a theory as to why so many men are like this; simply go with me for a quick moment.

     Think back to when you were younger and a lad would be rejected by his crush...what was the [overwhelming] thing that was said to him? Let me refresh your memory, "she doesn't know what she's missing" "she doesn't deserve you", or "try harder, girls like that".  NONE OF THESE THINGS ARE ACCURATE OR HEALTHY.  Women are taught from a YOUNG age to accept rejection as well as how to handle it when it arises.  Men are conditioned that rejection is NOT for them ESPECIALLY when it comes to women.  They are made to believe that if they want her, she is already theirs.  

    

    Therefore they have evolved their thinking to, I don't want her to get anything from me, but I am entitled to everything from her.  Also, the evolution has included, she cannot be better than me dude to the fragility of the manhood that ceases to be cultivated.  Hence the contradictions and the vitriol that is wielded toward women.

   

    Now, I have NOT forgotten about the subset of men that are merely fearful of vacating their closets and genuinely HATE women and join in the shenanigans for a [faux] sense of community.  Those that fit into that category [eventually] waltz out of or are drug out of the closet, therefore I will leave them in their darkness for now.  

 

     I would just like for men to FINALLY figure out what they want from their OWN lives and for them to take the time to heal for the sake of actual HEALTHY PARTNERSHIPS.  Do I think this is on the near horizon...plausibly...NO.  Am I hopeful that one day they will figure out, "What do they really want from a woman?"  Especially since (in their minds) women's worth is increased or decreased due to men and their involvement with men...shouldn't it be the men working hard to be of value?