Take a breath. Before you decide to let the world know that your entire identity is wrapped within being a mother... relax and read. Now...can motherhood be A PART of your individual journey of womanhood? Absolutely. Are you NOT a woman should you not be able to give birth or choose to be childfree? Absolutely NOT. STOP determining your worth as a woman via your willingness to be an (unpaid) incubator, nursemaid, and nanny.
Children are NOT a personality trait nor are they tokens that increase your level of womanhood.
Womanhood is an INDIVIDUAL journey and what makes YOU feel like a woman is all your own. There is NO mold that one must force themselves into in order to be a woman. STOP falling into the "new mommy" (with benefits) box that incel adjacent men (historically) try to place us all into. Why are you crafting your existence in accordance with those that (primarily) view you as obligated property that needs you to breed namesakes, be caretakers and therapists as well as sex toys with heartbeats?
YES...I am well aware that every woman does NOT date men and NOT every man is this way....but let us follow the numbers here.
We can NO longer sit back and pretend as if men are NOT bombarding us IRL and online with THEIR determination of what makes us women. This is combined with those that have been raised to believe that their womanhood is no further than wifedom and womanhood telling the rest that were are less than or "too masculine".
Far too often women become tethered to toxic relationships due to the children that have been the product of a man's fear of dying alone. We are told to focus on the women trapping men with offspring...but we have been normalized into ignoring the flipside of the pendulum. Society tells women that we are less of a woman and lacking in femininity when children are not a part of our sphere or if we decline to make our entire existence sex prizes.
This is no more than a tactic of allowing men to be able to dodge accountability and responsibility. You think I am reaching right now, don't you? Ok....let us think about this. When a man refuses to have healthy relationships... who is the blame? Which parent is to blame when a child is not a sterling law-abiding citizen? Who must emulate the single mothers of broken men in order to be pseudo-respected within a toxic situationship? Who are often rejected for taking motherhood "too seriously" and placing their children FIRST ABOVE a mate?
If you believe that understanding the concept of love and your own personal womanhood only comes through giving birth... you have fallen prey to the whims of patriarchy. Is that the journey of womanhood that you truly want?
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