Is the Title Truly Enough for You?

      In my few decades of life, I have noticed a shocking number of women whose entire identity is no more than being a wife and/or mother.  There is nothing in their existence that centers them...their needs...their wants...their goals...just caring for those that they believe are (predominately) reliant on them.  Where is the satisfaction in that? 

    Oh yea...the ability to convince oneself that they are better than them because they can sign with an M-R-S. 😏

     Being able to brag about a title and NOT the quality of the relationship or YOUR existence is NOT a flex.  It is quite sad.  Not everyone wants to be relegated to being a maid, caretaker, therapist,  and incubator to someone who (generally) weaponizes incompetence to avoid any help within the household? Far too many marriages where the wife's pride is contained within the title lack MUTUAL respect, emotional maturity, trust, and/or fidelity.  Too many men are comfortable in admitting that they looked for someone to cook and clean and be the singular caregiver for offspring while they take on the glory roles and photo op moments.  

     Why trade self-respect and (genuine) love for another person's last name?

     What happened to having goals? What happened to wanting to be a WHOLE human being? What happened to your INDEPENDANCE? Why lose who you are just to regret it upon the onset of empty nest syndrome? Why not fully formulate who you are before finding a partner? Why not have children because you CHOOSE to and NOT because you believe that is your plot in life because you are a woman? I ask because it seems that the "I am better than you because I got picked" attitude is nothing more than a feeble attempt at covering for the envy felt due to other women living the life you NOW realize that you desire. 

     My question is...Is the title truly enough for you?

     Yes, I am fully aware of happy and HEALTHY marriages.  I am referring SPECIFICALLY to those where the wife carries the familial load for the singular reward being the ability to brag about being HIS Mrs. Marriages where the wife is fighting to present a facade of perfection and glee when that is the furthest from [her] reality.