Is Your Allyship Transactional?

      Every day there is a new crop of self-proclaimed allies that find themselves offended and leaving behind their "title" because who they were supposed to be in support of wasn't nice enough for their liking.  These are people who have decided that since they do not PUBLICLY verbalize their problematic stances that they are allies to marginalized people.  

THIS IS NOT HOW ANY OF THIS WORKS!!!!!!

     Just as someone can NOT deem themselves the BEST of something, merely placing the bar on the ground is NOT the basis of dubbing thineself an ally.  Also, to be clear, if one's decision to PRETEND to stand on the correct side of history is rooted in receiving participation trophies and pats on the back..it can be kept within the depths of their inside thoughts.  We are collectively TIRED of the consistent "it's harmful to be this divisive" comments and sentiments.  CALLING OUT YOUR PROBLEMATIC COMMENTS/STANCES/ACTIONS IS NOT DIVISIVE JUDY!!!!!! 

Even valedictorians receive critiques and corrections...what makes you think that your cosplaying captain save a hoe makes you above reproach?

     What type of ally could you possibly be if you REFUSE to listen to those that you claim to be advocating for? How will you know what the goals are? How will you know what is NEEDED? 😏 Riddle me that Susan and Jared. 💅 Oh yea... never mind...you don't care what the marginalized need/require...you just want praise, to be infantilized, and deemed the hero of mankind cause of how you decorated your profile bio. 😒 You are down for a good run as a keyboard warrior UNTILL someone that looks like your reflection is called in or called out and then good lordt, the transactional performance art of your activism is declined.  

If only all of us could possess such privilege.

     How wonderful must it be to have the ability to throw a toddler-esque tantrum because you can't have a cookie for being a basic human? How stress-free must it be to be able to simply walk away from the fight for equity (because your LIFE isn't in jeopardy)?  It must be lovely to tire of HEARING about the oppression others must live with. 💅 Being a decent person does NOT come with award ceremonies and parades for the stroking of your ego.  It is difficult.  It is taxing.  It is draining.  It will cost you relationships.  

It will also give you community/support/purpose.

    If that is NOT enough "payment" enough for you...just admit that you are cozy within your individualism.  Admit that you care NOT for your fellow being.  Just do not spin yourself into the realm of the righteous once you age and your legacy asks about where you stood during these pivotal times.  Honestly let them know that you are your ancestors in the fact that you stood by and allowed the treacherous status quo to flourish negatively.

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