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If a Woman Can't Raise a Man, How Can You Determine What Makes a Woman?

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           For DECADES men have (and still) stand fast in their argument that there is NO WAY for a woman to be able to raise a boy to be a man.  They have recently doubled down claiming that women cannot determine what makes a man a man.  On the surface, there appears to be nothing [truly] wrong with this assessment, right?  That is...until you take a closer look at their adjacent arguments.  Men will (with their entire chests) tell women what makes a woman a woman and where her value resides.        How sway? HOW?!      Each and every time I hear a man telling us what mold were are to fit into in order to be deemed a woman in their eyes, I wonder, "Is he trying to even the playing ground in order to compete for the crown of ultimate woman?" I mean, when we state what we are LOOKING for or what we REQUIRE from a man, we are told that we are being masculine and trying to be the man. 😏   ...

Why Does Social Media Cause You to Be Ok with Bullying?

      Have you ever noticed that the higher the following count that a content creator has, the greater amount of bullying that is excused? Not sure what I am referring to?  Have you ever witnessed any of the following online: creators telling their followers who to follow if they are following them? creators going live watching their "enemy's" lives to "debunk" everything that they contend is about them in the live? creators saying that they are unbothered, then turning their entire platform into a shrine to drama? creators crowdsourcing for every "internet beef" because of legal fees/loss of work/birthdays/etc.? creators jumping from "crew" to "crew" and every past "crew" is now full of untrustworthy liars that should not be [currently] trusted? But everything that they said perilously (when they were all buddies was true).      I always get a chuckle when [some] people achieve a certain following count and the views are...

Tale as Old as Time: White Good, All Else Bad (No Matter What)

      ONCE AGAIN, Brett Favre is back showing the country just how much of a heartless POS he is.  Not familiar with his tainted history? Let us take a stroll down memory lane for a bit. 1996 - he received a temporary ban from drinking alcohol by the NFL after admitting his Vicodin addiction.   2010 - He was investigated for [allegedly] sending inappropriate pictures and messages to a "Game Day" (Jets) host in 2008.  He was NOT determined guilty but was FINED $50,000 for failing to cooperate with the investigation. 2020 - The 3-tier Mississippi Welfare Fraud incidents.      The most recent events surrounding Favre are a trio of despicable behavior that is getting [virtual] radio-silence from the vast majority of the country.  This man that is worth $100 million, he pursued defrauding the POOREST state within the US.  He had a portion of $75 million allocated to Mississippi's TANF program for his own desires and causes that he d...

Don't Center Yourself in the Trauma of Others

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           Recently Iranian women asked the rest of us to simply AMPLIFY their voices and NOT shave our heads.  Mimicking their protests within their morality-policed homeland is nothing more than performative and centering faux allyship.      The amount of women within the United States alone is mind-boggling.  What is utterly despicable are the Black women now centering themselves on this issue resulting in the DEATH of Iranian women .  Confused? Let me break this down for you.  We, as Black women, know all too well what it feels like to have people (specifically other women) speak over our pain and center themselves for clout, profit, or mere attention.  It is heartwrenching to watch [some] Black women do this now.      WE KNOW BETTER!!!!      How do you go from one breath of begging people to hear and respect your voice and boundaries for in the next breath you bulldoze over the voice...

School Shootings, Keyboard Warrior Detectives & Conspiracy Theories

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      It is heartwrenching enough to find out that your child has become a casualty of a horrific school shooting.  Imagine having that pain compounded by internet pseudo sleuths proclaiming that the mass murder was a hoax and that you and your deceased child are paid, actors.  This is what is currently being discussed during the defamation trial of (shock jock) Alex Jones .        There are attorneys taking to the airways to debate if the pain and delayed grieving of the parent of the Sandy Hook Elementary School massacre is simply due to the loss of a child or the false claims targeted at them by Jones.  Re-read that.  Jones, who has been the MOST vocal in proclaiming that the school shooting never occurred and who WILLINGLY passes along the wild theories of keyboard detectives has profited from this rhetoric.        Families have received hate mail, death threats, and more.  Jones mocked their m...

Why They FEAR CRT

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          This past weekend is a PRIME example of why the GOP does NOT want CRT taught outside of higher education.  Florida Governor Ron DeSantis decided to reach back into history and repeat it.  He LIED to migrants, promising jobs just to pull off an expensive political stunt steeped in racism.  He decided to use the tax dollars of Florida for the human trafficking of individuals seeking asylum and assistance.        This is NOT the first time that tactics such as this have been utilized by racists within the confines of the US.  The irony here is that DeSantis is the descendent of an immigrant that was deemed "undesirable" when she entered the country to join her husband in 1917.  The Immigration Act of 1917 , decided that Luigia "Louise" Colucci Storti (1876-1956) should be barred from entering because she was illiterate.  She was able to enter on February 2, 1917, simply because the ACT did not ...

Why is it Only Speaking Ill When You Like the Dead?

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            For the entirety of m life on this third rock from the sun, I have witnessed people disparage the victims of police brutality and more.  Especially with the advent of social media, global citizens will dredge up any amount of wrongdoing on the part of the victim as a measure of justifying their deaths.  People have even spoken ill of the victims of school massacres.  Claiming that the victims were actors and even suggesting that their murders never occurred.        YET, Queen Colonizer of England perishes due to old age and a broken incestuous heart, and heaven forbid anyone from reminding the ultra-white UK that she was NOT a patron saint.  Now it is "talking ill of the dead" when speaking on her sins and blind eye turning.        Let us discuss this "don't talk ill of the dead" mess.  I have heard this for as long as I can remember when someone passes on people lik...

USA: What is Your Obsession with the 1950s?

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           What is the obsession with wanting to rewind the clock to the decade of the 1950s in the United States? I can see the appeal for straight, cisgender, white, pseudo-Christian white men, but for all others...not so much.  Why does ANY woman want to return to a time when we ALL were viewed as and treated as [disposable] property?       Has it been lost on most of you the number of barbituates that it took to get WOMEN through their days with their openly abusive, corrupt, disloyal, philandering husbands? I am guessing that simply looking at vintage television shows and movies mixed with the utter lies told over the years from past generations you truly believe that the 1950s was the golden age of life in the United States.        Please take note that one of the most prevalent pastimes of American culture is LYING as a measure of making one's existence appear better than that of the generation that t...

Rest Somewhere Queen Colonizer

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             Today's expiration of Queen Elizabeth of England is the perfect example of proper education being needed as well as American & English hypocrisy.  Far too many people are unaware why the globe is NOT mourning her, yet rejoicing and joking about her passage unto her ancestors.  She was a colonizing, racist, incestuous, deadbeat that enjoyed being a mean girl who began to cosplay a sweet old lady.  As she wrinkled, it seems that people began to forget her history...her beliefs...her actual life.      Crazed, ill-educated royal fans within the United States are offended by the memes, the jokes, and the relief; but how quickly they have forgotten the George Floyd jokes that are still hurled at Black people.        Oh, yea citizens of the UK, we have NOT forgotten the amount of school shooting jokes that you hurl across the internet at us.  We have NOT forgotten how you have treate...

White Supremacy: The Infrastructure of the USA

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            Earlier today, a surprising number of people were shocked by the fact that an article confirmed that sheriffs, elected officials, and police chiefs were found on the [official] membership list of the Oath Keepers .  Given the "founding" and history of this nation...WHY ARE YOU SHOCKED?! HOW ARE YOU SHOCKED?!  Have you missed how non-white, cis, straight, Christian individuals have been viewed and treated here?        Why do you think "Make America Great Again" (MAGA) and "Back the Blue" and "America First" caught fire so quickly and refuse to lose momentum?      Trump transported them back in time to their beloved, infantilized "good old days".  The days when they could (and would) OPENLY display their racism and desire for free labor and division.  Also, how do you think that they have been able to maintain the oppressive systems created hundreds of years prior? Luck? NOOOOOOOOOOOO. Covert...

When Will (Healthy) Black Love Be Acceptable?

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           It is overtly noticeable that certain examples of Black love are demonized horrifically.  The world is far too comfortable with racial tropes surrounding Black families and perceived dynamics that denote "less than".  Black women are seen as unworthy/undeserving of more than below the bare minimum as well as the carrier of all emotional baggage.        Then you have women such as (recording artist) Ciara Wilson, who held herself accountable for falling into the trap of believing that a warm body was enough.  She took the time to work on herself and emerged alongside a partner that was far better suited and did not embrace the tropes and societal standards forced upon Black love.  He loves, respects, and honors her in all ways and far too many HATE this.       But I thought we are supposed to choose better men.  I thought we were supposed to hold ourselves accountable for our past mi...